S. from Lagos

I am a 22 year old, and I met a guy on a social network late last year. We have met physically and he seems like a good person. He is a Christian but I’m scared, I keep hearing negative comments that online relationships have a high failure rate and I am worried. Your advice will be appreciated.

EVB

Meeting someone on social media is not more serious than if you had met him at a bus stop or eatery etc. The key is to test if he is real and if he is for real. Usually, the best check is time. Don’t run anywhere. Slow it down – study him and ask questions. Try to know him. Initially, he may hide things but if you are observant and persistent  – with time he will let down his guard. Observe and pray! Once it’s clear that some things are not gelling – let it go before your heart gets broken.

However if you ask me – there are a lot of safer ways to get spouses and you are still in the prime of your window.

Test it and give it time and while you are doing that – am sorry if you are offended – keep it clean.

Above all pray! Prayer works!